Shouting, screaming and arguing occur. We all lose your cool, from time to time and say things more difficult than intended. Some of us try to keep emotions under control, but then we have a crisis and quit.
It may be mostly received your partner’s anger and shouting. Or could it be that you have a tendency to rise to his level of intensity, and there is no end in tears.
Identify the role.
It is seldom easy to recognize that you are playing a role in the conflict going on in your relationship or marriage, but you probably do. Have the courage to recognize the role you play.
Disconnect the usual pattern and try something different.
When you have a better idea of ??what you normally do when your partners near cries (or even before he or she cries), you can begin to catch up soon when you do these things as inputs into the contentious situation.
Remember to breathe.
As trivial as that sounds, remember that breathes in the middle of a moment of tension or confrontation can make a big difference.
Expect to be respected and heard.
Expectations are high. We expect the sun will rise and set every day. We expect our cars to transport us from one place to another.
And over time, we develop ourselves and the expectations of our partner.
One might expect that a friend yell and scream when you make a mistake or somehow disappointed him. One might expect that the fun tonight with partner is to ignore or not understand what you are trying to say.
Create the agreements and to set limits.
When the two you are calm, ask him or her reach arrangements with you about how you will communicate with each other.
There are times when the establishment of a limit is also called. If your partner refuses to create (or less) agree with you, it might be time for you to understand what you and not allow it.